Holding It, Together
Activating Your Circles of Care
When a parent or someone you love is seriously ill, you can find yourself trying to hold everything together at once: medical updates, work, kids, siblings, finances, and your own emotions. It’s a lot.
You might feel overwhelmed, confused, resentful, or stuck. You may be the one everyone turns to, without anyone giving you what you actually need. Finding words for those needs, let alone having them met, can feel impossible.
If this sounds familiar, we can work together to map what’s really happening, invite others into the circle of care, and unlock a relational, practical plan you can actually use.
Together we will:
Map what’s actually happening in your life and in your loved one’s care: medically, practically, and emotionally.
Clarify who can do what, and what’s realistic, so you’re not carrying more than you can sustain.
Name the hard conversations about sharing responsibility, and plan how to approach them in ways that fit your actual relationships.
Create an actionable plan grounded in the values and needs of the person who is ill, and supports a more sustainable circle of care around them.
Overview of session plan
Session 1
75 minutes
Who’s involved, what’s happening, what’s hardest right now.
Identify the “circle of care”: people, roles, constraints, risks.
Values and needs.
Session 2
75 minutes
Clarify roles and look for gaps.
Explore pressure points and possible conflict zones.
Identify 2–3 concrete decisions or conversations that need attention soon.
Session 3
75 minutes
Plan approaches to hard conversations.
Build simple agreements (e.g., updates, decision‑making norms).
Identify external support to fill gaps.
Session 4
60 minutes
Review what’s changed, what’s still hard.
Adjust the care plan and agreements if needed.
Pricing
I offer a sliding scale for all of my services, because access to an end-of-life doula should not be determined by your financial experience.
If you've just received a serious diagnosis, you may not know yet what your financial picture will look like. That's okay. Choose the rate that feels true for you today, and know that we can revisit it if your situation changes.
If you’re stumped about what to choose, or the rates shown are absolutely not accessible to you, reach out and we’ll talk about it together.
Standard Rate
$1,350
For those who can meet this cost without significant financial hardship.
For example:
You might be paying off debt or working to build savings, but you have access to steady income.
You do not spend most of your time thinking about meeting basic needs (including food, housing, and transportation).
You might have to cut back on some discretionary spending to afford the Standard Rate but the sacrifice is short-term.
This is the rate that allows me to do this work sustainably.
Sustaining Rate
$1,800
For those with significant financial resources who want to actively contribute to broader access.
For example:
You have access to financial security, have personal savings, family wealth, or own property.
You are able to pay for “wants” and spend little time worrying about securing necessities in your life.
Paying this rate is a way of extending this work to people who couldn't otherwise access it.
It's participation in something larger than just our work together.
Community Rate
$900
For those for whom the Standard Rate would create genuine financial hardship, not just inconvenience or sacrifice.
This rate is made possible by others who pay at or above the Standard Rate.
Limited to 5 spots per quarter.